New Year's Resolutions

In addition to a host of personal habits and responsibilities that I have to my owner, these are the "extras" on my list of things to accomplish in 2011.

Okay...drum roll please...

1. To find at least one new and special way to please Goddess each month.  Something that will make her smile, please her in a way that brings a freshness and a newness to my service to her. (I'll gladly accept ideas :-)
2. To do everything I can to see Goddess's dream of her own private dungeon come to fruition.
3. To build a stronger, deeper, more meaningful network of others in the BDSM lifestyle.
4. To become more fit, lean, flexible so as to be able to serve Goddess better.
5. To more faithfully work on this blog so that it is a fitting tribute to my Goddess.
6. To make movies of my submission and share them.
7. To revive my photography hobby and use it to expand my world vision and to please Goddess with the images.
8. To meet, if only for coffee, 3 online friends in the real world...to merge the cyberlife with the reallife.
9. To go on some sort of retreat...completely non-vanilla (a 2 day seminar or event, camping, D/s lifestyle mini trip)
10. To expand and develop my submissive limits in the areas I am deficient (future post coming)
11. To share my submissive life with one vanilla friend...again an attempt to merge both parts of life...vanilla/non-vanilla...in order to spend less time going from one to the other...and spend more time in the BDSM lifestyle...out of the closet.

The Most Special Gift of All: A Collar

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Collaring Part 3: In Kinkness and In Health...

Ah, the Collaring Ceremony...the subject of Blog posts, Diary entries, Short stories and Poems.  Just the thought of a ceremony conjures up words and emotions like romance, power exchange, jocularity, festiveness, solumness, pagentry, protocol, sacrifice, community....

If you google "collaring ceremony", you'll get tons of examples, formulas, pictures, movies, how-to's, OMG...people love a good ceremony :-)  Here are some very common elements often included in typical ceremonies....

• The "branding" of the sub/slave with the owner's mark.  (For the Gorean Crowd)
• Elaborate speeches and orations
• Recitations of oaths
• Public flogging
• Candle lighting ceremonies including wax play
• The shedding or dropping of sub's hard and soft limits
• A renaming of the sub/slave
• A binding of the hands by ribbon with both holding the contract
• The signing of a contract
• A carefully scripted public scene
• In a domme/sub ceremony, the sub may be "taken with a strap-on" to signify the power exchange, often in front of the guests.
• A wine toast for everyone except the sub who gets her golden nectar.
• Ceremony guests may be invited to hug the Master/Mistress and spank or humiliate the submissive...or may be asked to participate in some manner that the Master/Mistress desires.
• Elements common to a marriage may be included, such as music, readings, etc.
• A reception or party may be held subsequent to the ceremony.  This may include scenes, public service from the submissive...or simply be a time for drink and laughter.

It's a creative person's dream event...no doubt...whether its a small or large event.  And since there aren't any real "social conventions" other than the actual "collaring"...a Master/Mistress can basically design their own perfect ceremony.

There will probably be a follow up to this post after Goddess and I put our heads together...and her will is done :-)

Collaring Part 2: Musings on the Internet's Take

As most of you readers know, I am in service to Goddess, a Magnificent Woman who somehow found me in the pile of subs out there seeking a dominant.  We've only been together now for going on two months, and already have made some significant moves forward in our relationship.  My period of "consideration" lasted about a week (mostly online, a dinner w/ her and hubby, and a play session at a local club).  Immediately, many things became apparent:

• There was a respectable amount of trust that developed quickly.
• There was an "energy" that made a "connection" between us from the beginning.
• Our philosophies, views, interests, BDSM profiles were very in-line with one another.
• My life situation (single parent) and hers (a solid femdom marriage) were assimilated into a common goal...potential domme/sub relationship.

This background in mind, we have done a whirlwind of what most would call "training" or mutual "testing" of who each of us is, what makes us tick, what our "limits" are, and where we'd like this to go in the future.  Although I've worn collars for her...one could hardly call them "training" collars simply because things have gone so fast.

COLLARING Pt. 1 : Research and Understanding

So, over the last 25 years or so, I've been in and out...on the fringe...knee deep in the BDSM scene.  Lots of experimentation, lots of play partners, lots of self reflection.  A "collar", although discussed a couple times, has not been part of my experience.  With my devotion to Goddess growing by the day, and Her happiness with my service...the word has come up.  A "Collar"...an adornment, a piece of clothing or accessory sure...but we're talking about a COLLAR or BEING COLLARED. 



While I have a basic understanding of what that really is, I did some research and found some great resources on what a Collar really means, what types of collars there are, etc.  Much more than I had thought about, so wanted to share with you.  One of the best sites I found was http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/ .