A Brief History to Catch You Up
My Goddess is married to her Hubby and they have been married for roughly 10 years. Both of them have been active in the BDSM/kink lifestyle for a very long time...before the two of them met. Here are some facts and my observations of them as a couple:
- They find joy in most everything they do. They have done some incredible traveling and seen the world.
- They are genuinely caring people. They have done some great acts of charity, and I've learned of some fantastic things they have done to help those less fortunate. They have done these things with no fanfare, and shown generosity and kindness to many, many people.
- They are both extremely successful in their fields, very well respected and accomplished. Both having worked hard to achieve their success. They are cultured, worldly, educated, well spoken, deep thinkers.
- They are open-minded on the ways of the world, alternative lifestyles, kink related issues, sexuality, and those that are different from the rest. While they have strong convictions and beliefs on things, they are the kind of people you can talk to and have discussions with.
- They operate together with an extremely strong Trust in and with one another. Their tolerance for differences is most remarkable, and the way they support each other in their differences is unlike anything I've seen in a couple kink or vanilla.
- While they don't always agree, they seem to find humor in their differences, and the love they share is resilient to the trappings most marriages so often fall into. It is a FLR, but one that works as a team, one much more based on commonality, cooperation
- At some point, Goddess expressed to Hubby she wanted to seek out a sub. The reasons and how that situation played out between them are not really important and more private.
Sooooo, enter Hawk (me). Goddess found me on Collarme, we emailed back and forth...and in fairly short order set up a time to meet. Goddess and I had been completely transparent with each other on our life situations, our relationships, our histories and expectations. So the night came...we met at a pizza place between our two homes, and had dinner. There were some nerves...that fairly quickly dissipated. Hubby's first words when we met were, "Don't be nervous, this isn't her first ballgame." That set the tone for some good conversation. We then went to a local club after dinner and did some light BDSM play, the 3 of us in a partially private area of the club. The three of us made it through that first meeting, I believe, all pleased with each other and the potential that laid before us.
Months have passed and Goddess has collared me and I am now in her service as her sub/slave. While most of the BDSM portion of the relationship has been Goddess and myself, we've gone to the club since as a unit of 3...spent New Years Eve together, and the dynamic of the whole things seems to be very good. So here's the MEAT of this post. How I'm feeling about things:
- I adore my Goddess, I worship her with all my heart and want to be the best slave I can be for her. I trust her, I respect her, I obey her, and I am committed to her completely.
- I am thankful for the friendship of Hubby. How he as accepted me into his/their home for who I am. My hope is that my relationship with him will continue to strengthen and become a special friendship.
- It is a rather remarkable dynamic, one I've never experienced. Because Goddess is happily married and they are not into swapping or swinging or poly, my submission to her has unique and has important boundaries. There is no "romance" or overt "sexual component" to my submission. It is quite simply a D/s relationship, based on service, worship, power exchange. The fulfillment for me derives from having someone I care about and trust to submit to. To get the subspace feelings out of the fantasy part of my brain and into the "living" part of my brain.
- Hubby has his own unique kinks and preferences, that I find complex and are sort of new to me. They aren't my cup of tea, but the way he has managed to integrate his desires and kink into his life is inspirational.
- The two of them have a network of friends with fetishes, a world of experience from playing, scening, and living the life, and a desire to enjoy life and do what feels good to each of them. As a sub with no real network other than the friends I've met here online, it is a nice extra for me to possibly join their list of friends and maybe "come out" of my submissive closet with other real people.
- I am very self conscious about my service and submission to Goddess. There are things that I will not ever, ever do. I don't ever want to cause problems or issues between Goddess and Hubby. I cherish their bond, and hope that my role in their relationship ADDS to their happiness and in no way causes any bad feelings, jealousies, or problems.
- On a different note and line of thinking...there are some sobering thoughts to submitting to a Married Goddess. The future will likely not hold much, if any real intimacy or romance. Goddess has said that there may come a time when she might include others in play...or even add a female sub to our small circle...which does leave open some possibility of sexuality, intimacy, etc. The life of a submissive like myself is often watered by gentle rains of self sacrifice, joy in sorrow, fulfillment through deprivation. It's not something new to me or any other with deep submission written on their heart.
